39. Grace

Participant-44-Portrait

I became a lonely person in life, but fortunately for me, then I met this man, who became my husband. He supported me, but then all of a sudden, he lost his job. Now he does some menial jobs, which he does occasionally. With that, he is only able to put food on the table for us. Now life is very difficult for me because I am unable to make a living and neither is my husband.


I was sixteen when my mommy brought me here. I wasn’t a person with a disability. I came here with my mom. I had step-siblings here, so my mother came with me to join them here.

I went to the farm one day. When I was on the way back from the farm, I was bitten on the buttocks. I felt the sting of something biting. All of the sudden I got home, and I was experiencing serious headache. All of sudden, I fell sick. At that moment, my mommy was supposed to take me to the hospital. The doctors tried all they could, but they couldn’t make any diagnosis, so I was then discharged. They took me to other places, and then I was taken back home. As a result, I was brought back home. Since then, I’ve been paralyzed and I’ve been unable to go to my former state since then.

Due to that, my mommy decided to take me to my father. When she went to him with me, she brought me to this community. He wouldn’t accept me in my paralyzed state, so she had to bring me back. All of a sudden, my mommy passed away, and my daddy is dead too. So I was left alone.

I became a lonely person in life, but fortunately for me, then I met this man, who became my husband. He supported me, but then all of a sudden, he lost his job. Now he does some menial jobs, which he does occasionally. With that, he is only able to put food on the table for us. Now life is very difficult for me because I am unable to make a living and neither is my husband.

Things are very difficult now.

My child is now a year and two months old.

Anytime I make movement, people do ridicule and laugh at me. They often say I’m not human because I cannot even earn a living. They say all sorts of demeaning statements.

When my husband met me, there was a discrimination on the part of my husband’s family. They said I was disabled and that I could not work and they wouldn’t allow the husband to marry, but the husband wasn’t really interested me, he just realized that I was less privilege. He settled with me out of pity. He’s much older than me, and I’m an orphan.

He is my helper.


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